Barbara R. Ehrhard, 80, of Whiting, passed away on Friday, November 28, 2025. Barbara was a dedicated flight attendant for Pan Am Airways. She started her career in 1967 at her homebase in San Francisco, then transferred 1972-1991 to her new homebase in New York City. Her second career was manager of the Amtrak VIP Lounge at New York Penn Station before retiring.
Born and raised in Long Beach, CA, she lived in San Francisco, CA, Manhattan, NY, West Orange, NJ, and Culver’s Lake, NJ before retiring to Crestwood Village, Whiting in 2018. Barbara was a proud member of World Wings, which is a nonprofit charitable, alumni-driven organization for former flight attendants of Pan Am. Barbara was known for her passion for world travel.
She was predeceased by her brother, Allen Ross. Barbara is survived by her loving husband, Thomas, of 37 years; two stepsons, Frederick W. Ehrhard and Kurt J. Ehrhard; her stepdaughter, Marlaine K. Mendenhall and her husband, George, her granddaughter, Danielle Mendenhall, and her sister-in-law, Debra Ross.
Visitation will be held from 2-4 & 7-9pm on Wednesday, December 3, 2025, and from 10-11am on Thursday, December 4, 2025, at DeGraff Lakehurst Funeral Home, 119 Union Ave., Lakehurst. Burial will follow at Ocean County Memorial Park, Toms River.
Tom I’m so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers go to you and your family. I hope all your fond memories help you through this difficult time.
So heartbroken to hear this news I was so hoping to re connect with you both …. So many wonderful memories of our days in NYC and Culver Lake always the best hostess even after a red eye flight . My love and deepest sympathies to Tom and family . Love and friendship always
So sorry for your loss Tom, she was a wonderful person and always enjoyed seeing you guys in NJ and Ireland 🇮🇪 xx she will be missed ❤️
So sorry for your loss Tom ❤️ Barbara was a precious jewel and I will miss her so much! I Sending all my love to you and family ❤️
Tom my condolences
I am so sorry to hear about Nancy
My prays are with you and your family
Msrio
Tom sorry
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Tom, I am very sorry for your loss of your wonderful wife Barbara. I will always have great memories of her and she will always be in my heart. The world has lost a great person. She will be missed by everyone who had the fortune to know her. My thoughts are with you.
Tom I am so sorry for your loss. Barbara was a delight to be around She was full of life and I will always remember the fun adventures we had when flying together. A light has been extinguished.
Monica Durkan
So sorry for your loss Tom, she was a wonderful woman and very kind every time I met her.
Tom, I am sorry for your loss.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Un abrazo,
Gabriel
Tom. Dicember 2 2025 at 9 am Thinking of you with sympathy and hoping you find comfort in your special memories.
Tom,
I was deeply saddened by the loss of Barbara. Although I never met her I remember you always speaking of her lovingly. Having been where you are I recommend finding the strength to endure from your family and faith. God bless you and yours.
Tom,
The world grows smaller and quieter with Barbara’s passing, but her heart and soul will light up Heaven and lead the way for us to join her. My heart goes out to you, my friend of 65 years, and more memories than I can ever count.
Ever in Christ,
RONNY
Tom,
Please accept my sincerest condolences.
May sll the wonderful memories help you in this period of mourning.
Tom , I am truly sorry to hear Barbara the love of your life as passed. she will surely be missed.. she was one of the happiest people that I have known always cheerful. For all the years that of know you guys you were like salt and pepper always together. You will always be together in spirit with great loving memories. love your friend Ken S
Dear Tom, I am so sorry to hear of Barbara’s passing. I am so glad that I reached out to her a couple of weeks ago and that we still had a few laughs. She was a very dear friend and I have many fond memories of trips together and many celebrations of birthdays and holidays. Take care and sending thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. Gigi
So sorry to hear this sad news. Please reach out if we can help you in any way . Barbara was a sweet lady and will be missed.
Tom,
My heartfelt condolences to you and your family over Barbara’s passing. May your memories together be a comfort in the time ahead. I flew with Barbara several times and we always enjoyed flying together.
May she rest in peace.
In Sympathy,
Lise Bjerkedok.